Resolution vs Intention

The new year is about a beginning. A fresh start and a new chance to renew old and failed resolutions. Will we be able to do things differently this year? Can we keep our New Year’s resolution and lose those kilos, quit smoking, eat healthier, exercise more, stress less, meditate more?

Just thinking about another New Year’s resolution feels disheartening to me. There seems to be no kindness or flexibility in a resolution. It is too resolute. It is more like a demand to myself. I want something and I know it is good for me, and the only thing that seems to stand in the way is my lack of motivation. I hope that resolving to do it will make me want to do it. Almost like a punishment for that lack of motivation. And it often works. At least for the first two weeks or so. Then motivation and energy shift to other needs, and I give up.

When I think of a resolution, I imagine my future self. And somehow, I have a very optimistic view of her. A Gaula who is more disciplined, has more than twenty-four hours in a day, can hold all her goals in the air at the same time, has the energy of a Duracell bunny, and has the mental stability of an Olympic athlete.

Reality is more complex. I have needs, energy levels, hormones, and moods that keep changing. I could push through all of these “excuses”, but at what cost? I do not want to lose connection with myself. I am much more than any scale can measure. If anything, I want to be able to embrace myself with gentleness and self-acceptance. I do not want to impose harshness on myself. Even if I lose all the weight I want to lose, I will regain it, and more, if there is no softness towards myself.

So this year, I only have intentions. Intentions that are rooted in my needs and longings, and that offer flexibility in what shape they take. For 2026, I have the intention to be kinder towards myself and my inner critic. The intention to take care of my body and mind, and to make healthy choices whenever I can. The intention to live a joyful and meaningful life. The intention to care for and contribute positively to the world and the people around me.

There is spaciousness and gentleness when I formulate my intentions. Such a different energy from any resolution. I hope that sharing this may offer some inspiration as you transition to the New Year.

Wishing you a happy and peaceful 2026!

Warm regards,